Simple Self-Control

I have a saying that hangs in my room that says, “The less you discipline yourself, the more someone else has to.” I much prefer students that have self-control and can self-assess and self-correct than a student who I always have to be involved with correcting and redirecting bad behaviors. Research has shown that people who have good self-control do better in school, earn higher salaries, are well liked, and are less likely to get in trouble with the law. Adults who have high self-control have fewer psychological problems and form stronger peer relationships.

I am intrigued by a study that was done at Stanford University beginning in the 1960’s called “The Marshmallow Test”. In this research, preschool aged children were taken into a room where a marshmallow or some other treat was placed on a table. The children were told they could choose to eat it now or wait 15 minutes before eating the marshmallow and then they would get two. Those who were able to wait focused on things other than the treat. Some even turned around so they couldn’t see it. The interesting part of the study, however, isn’t necessarily those that waited the 15 minutes then…when they were 4…..it was the results of the study years later when the majority of those that did wait had less problems with drug abuse, obesity, or problem behavior during high school than those in the study that didn’t wait. Does that mean you are doomed if you can't put off instant gratification for something better later on? Of course not, but the study shows that people who learn to exercise self-control early usually avoid problems down the road. Think about all the ways having self-control can help us in all aspects of our lives. It is truly a gift that we can give to ourselves and to our children. If you want an interesting read about the benefits of self-control go here: and also here Here is another interesting take on self-control vs. self-esteem by Dennis Prager in regards to the recent school shootings.